tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5654339043609388641.post1569713825967861880..comments2023-10-28T06:18:40.314-04:00Comments on Aidel Knaidel: ... I dont want you to seeAidelKnaidelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01914817940098383303noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5654339043609388641.post-76125918037758495112007-12-16T01:31:00.000-05:002007-12-16T01:31:00.000-05:00I think the solution is not to talk about it as mu...I think the solution is not to talk about it as much any more at least not every night. talk abt other stuff.flatbush galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12632544987471575822noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5654339043609388641.post-37929549443638964242007-12-13T06:32:00.000-05:002007-12-13T06:32:00.000-05:00This post made me think of you.(Please don't read ...<A HREF="http://asimplejew.blogspot.com/2007/12/hidden.html" REL="nofollow">This post</A> made me think of you.<BR/><BR/>(Please don't read it as something that puts more pressure on you, but rather as something that points to the positive potential in your struggle.)Juggling Frogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03572259373523756647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5654339043609388641.post-75535568737410708312007-12-13T06:28:00.000-05:002007-12-13T06:28:00.000-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.Juggling Frogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03572259373523756647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5654339043609388641.post-53385615982577407742007-12-13T01:15:00.000-05:002007-12-13T01:15:00.000-05:00this is why i don't discuss dating with friends......this is why i don't discuss dating with friends... my closest friends know when i'm dating, but that's it... they don't hear any details... until it's over and i can tell the funny stuff (without names, of course..)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5654339043609388641.post-82407003532543823252007-12-12T18:00:00.000-05:002007-12-12T18:00:00.000-05:00ditto, juggling frogs. well said both of you.feeli...ditto, juggling frogs. well said both of you.<BR/>feelings have to be dealt with. I think your doing wellAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5654339043609388641.post-22858646850544769272007-12-11T09:00:00.000-05:002007-12-11T09:00:00.000-05:00The feeling is the challenge.That you're strugglin...The feeling is the challenge.<BR/><BR/>That you're struggling with it means that you're meeting the challenge.<BR/><BR/>If you never felt jealous, you'd never have the opportunity to improve this middah. <BR/><BR/>It's humbling and ennobling at the same time. We're not angels, born perfect. We have stuff to do. This is that stuff.<BR/><BR/>Imagine yourself as a mother, years from now, trying to teach and comfort your daughter as she faces a similar challenge. What use would you be to her, if you never struggled with this yourself? Everything you'd say would seem like a platitude. <BR/><BR/>"Eeeeema. You just don't understand."<BR/><BR/>"Hmmm. Maybe not. But I remember what it was like. When my friend..."Juggling Frogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03572259373523756647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5654339043609388641.post-56445532246786614042007-12-10T21:32:00.000-05:002007-12-10T21:32:00.000-05:00re-freakin'-lax. I can't tell you anything you don...re-freakin'-lax. <BR/><BR/>I can't tell you anything you don't know, but I'll say it anyway. You're young. You have lots of life ahead of you. You are a valuable person on your own. You'll get your "yeses" soon enough and begin to wish you hadn't. Who dates first isn't indicative of anything about character. <BR/><BR/>It's natural to feel jealous because you're treating this like the next big thing in your life. And of course you want to do well at it. <BR/>Don't give it that <I>chashivus</I>. It's incredible how much better you'll feel. <BR/><BR/>[/end rant]<BR/><BR/>It really bothers me when people get so upset about shidduchim. Which is why I started blogging. But seriously... why get upset about something that is totally out of your control? Imagine being upset because of the weather or what color tie the president wears.<BR/><BR/>Oh wait, I"m ranting again. I'll stop for real now.Bad4shidduchim(in exile)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04551624998554541101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5654339043609388641.post-30503768437992031722007-12-10T17:12:00.000-05:002007-12-10T17:12:00.000-05:00Your feelings are kind of normal. That's what com...Your feelings are kind of normal. That's what competition is all about..and that's why I don't like discussing my shidduchim with friends. It's just not healthy. Try not to talk about it too much..it's only natural that it will breed jealousy. Good luck to both of you.halfsharedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08897983346646333294noreply@blogger.com